Here it is, the first day in my 30s. I'm sitting here reminiscing and just reflecting on my life, trying to take in the fact that I am no longer a twenty something. Let me just say that I am a very different person from my early 20s to now. I no longer get blackout wasted and act like that pretentious chick at the bar who just got in trouble alot, sometimes kicked out. I will also add in that I am actually pretty surprised that I survived and alive for my 30th birthday. That's another story which I won't be sharing on here incase my parents are reading this. HA
All joking aside, I am grateful that I am blessed with another year. I won't lie and say I am completely jumping up with joy. It's a mind thing for me and am sort of crying out inside. I mean 30?! There are probably some of you older than me reading this and just rolling your eyes but I thought about this number since I was 27 and now it's here. What now? Well, here's a few things I learned in my 20s to reflect on. Maybe this will help me in this new chapter of my life.
- I say this often and I often remind myself that no matter what, everything in this life is temporary. Whether it's the joy in your life or pain you're experiencing you have in this very moment. Hardship will pass. People in your life will come and go. You will meet new people, have new experiences, doors will close, doors will open.
- Change is good – To continue my point above, embrace change. Everything in this world changes and life will be easier to cope with when you get comfortable with the uncomfortable. Move forward and don't change what you can't control (this includes turning 30).
- Comparison is killer. I'm sure you've all heard this but its something I learned along the way. Instead of thinking that someone is better than you, why not use that as a motivation. To better yourself or improve on what you want. Remind yourself that you are made unique and you were created perfect in Gods eyes.
- Set Boundaries – This applies to everyone including your loved ones. I used to think this was harsh but it's necessary. It's healthy for your relationships. Boundaries define who we are and who we're not. I actually loved this book I read by Henry Cloud about Boundaries.
- Love yourself – This is at the top of my list and something I'm constantly working on to this day. This doesn't mean being selfish and just thinking of yourself. Sometimes we accept the love we think we deserve. I know now that I deserved much more.
- Say No-I seem to always be the go to girl at a workplace just cause NO wasn't in my vocabulary. I am a people pleaser and it got to the point where I felt that I was obligated to say yes even though I wanted to say no.
- Apologize only when it's necessary.Yes, I am one of those people who used to say sorry to everything. It's the people pleaser in me.
- Being broke is better than being in debt.
- Stay Hungry, be humble and just work hard.
- I love being around people and I used to surround myself with just anybody who would listen to me. I've had so many friendships fail and so many people who have come and go in my life. There are friends who go away for a long time and when I see them, it's like we picked up where we left off. I moved away from Canada for a bit and there were friends I left behind. When I came back, everything changed. I also have some friends who I just met this year or a few years ago and feel that they are one of my best friends. My point is….it's pretty straightforward, it's either you're their friend back or not. It's a mutual thing and you both just know even if you don't talk or see each other everyday.
- Everything is in HIS time. You can want something so bad right now and you do everything in your power to get it, but if it's not in God's will, it won't happen or it could but it won't last. You set out to do everything and either you get it or you don't. It's nice when it works out but if it doesn't, it's not the end of the world.
- Okay so to kind of piggy back #11, if you feel unaccomplished at this point, it's not a huge deal. You don't have to have it all figured out now. I always thought, by 23 I would be married, by 25 I will have kids and by 30 I will be making x amount of money. His plans over mine. I'm not just saying this to make excuses for myself but I will admit that I want to be more financially stable. There are many things I wish I had accomplished in my 20s but I guess my priorities at the time were just not lined up to where they should have been. It's okay! The only thing I can do is to not stay in this same place and put my plans into action.
- Babies don't come with manuals. This is something I learned in the last year. Raising a little one is no joke.
- You are who you associate with. You've all heard this before.
- Travel often – this is something I wish I did often but never got a chance to. So here's to my 30s and traveling the world.
- Don't bottle up your feelings– I am guilty of this. I have lost friendships and just takes a toll on your physical health. I'm talking headaches from bottling up what I'm feeling. Sleeping in early just to avoid conflict. Eventually, it will all explode and come out in the open so may as well say what you feel.
- Don't hide your dreams – I don't even know why but a few years back when I started blogging, I used to hide it from my friends and family. I would never ask my friends to take pictures of my outfit for a blog post. I used to find places where there weren't any crowds to avoid people watching and giving weird glances. It resulted to me being unhappy with my posts and ended up being discouraged some days.
- I used to need validation from other people as if I wasn't good enough unless someone told me I was. If there was a negative feedback or criticism, I took it personally and would try to change whatever they thought was right. I look back now and ask myself why? For what? I can now formulate who I am without hearing someone else's opinion first.
- Trust your gut – If your gut is telling you something, listen to it.
- Now for the most important point. sunscreen, sunscreen, sunscreen. Those wrinkles will sneak up on you.
So If you've made it this far into my post, congratulations. I also wanted to share these photos as they are my last outfit post in my 20s. Yep, I guess this is what 30 looks like you guys.
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